“He stopped sending me emails, what do I do now?” In this technology-driven age we live in, that’s a very common dating question. Many of us communicate with the man of our lives through text messages or email. It’s convenient, unobtrusive, and leaves us with a tangible and lasting account of all the things we’ve talked about. But what happens if that communication suddenly stops? What if he no longer responds to his emails and doesn’t respond when you text or call him?
There are a few reasons why it may have stopped emailing you. One is that it has actually gotten very busy. Although men tend to use work as an excuse when their interest in a woman begins to wane, don’t jump to that conclusion right away. Actually, he may be buried under the work. If you think this is the case, give him a quick call to see how the job is going. You’ll be able to tell by the sound of his voice if he’s feeling overwhelmed by it.
Another more common reason men stop emailing is because they are testing you. Men are a lot like us in that they want to know what’s going on with their hearts. You want to gauge their level of interest, and what better way to do that than by trying it out? He may have suddenly stopped emailing you just to see how you react. You may find this a bit manipulative, but in the world of dating, just about anything gets done.
If you think he’s actually testing you to see if you’re as interested in him as he is in you, be careful how you proceed. If you’re too upset that he’s stopped emailing you, he’ll be caught off guard and won’t find you so attractive after all. Too strong a reaction suggests that you fell for him too quickly. In his mind, if you’re this crazy about him this soon, you probably feel the same way about every guy you date. That is not attractive to any man.
On the other hand, if he stopped emailing or texting you and you don’t react at all, that sends him a completely different message. That reaction suggests that you are interested, but not to the point of being obsessed with him. He’ll start to worry a little about whether you’re going to chase him, and if you don’t, he’ll not only start emailing you again, but he’ll also call more often.