Because many men fear that if they marry a Chinese woman, she will only do it to improve her financial status and because it is often a question that men email me about, I am writing this article. Not everyone has visited or lived in mainland China, not to mention dating a cross-section of Chinese women, so there are certainly some types of information that you should be aware of, regardless of the initial stages, or even the early stages. marriage. .
Even though I had been involved in the Chinese community in my own country for many years, and had also dated Chinese girls in my own country, it did not prepare me at all for mainland Chinese women!
Let me say this to begin with, as it is definitely something to pay attention to: Chinese women do not express their feelings or thoughts in the same way as Western women, and this can really confuse some Western men; testimonial to this fact is my email box! Even some clues and signs that you may think show your feelings may simply be your culturally conditioned behavior that is misleading you. Essentially, Chinese women are taught from a young age to act a certain way so that they can secure a husband, their mothers deliberately raise them this way. When they reach adulthood, they don’t actually know that they are doing this, especially in the case of mainland Chinese women.
So how can we know that a Chinese woman really loves us, since it is a fact that in Chinese culture love is no a prerequisite for marriage, if it wasn’t the case we really wouldn’t need to ask this question. However, I can say that there are a lot of Chinese women who are totally genuine, honest and loving, not to mention that they are beautiful. In China, the Chinese often regard love as an action, for example, if a Chinese woman cooks for you, raises your children, or even takes care of you when you are sick, she would honestly say that she ‘loves’ you. Few women in Chinese culture would regard this as a form of deception, as in Chinese culture it is not!
In any case, so that we can make sure your Chinese girlfriend or fiance really has a deep feeling for you, let’s take a look at a few clues:
If a Chinese woman begins to show concern for your health, it may be an indicator that her feelings run deeper than just friendship. In culture, a Chinese woman, and especially a wife, must show some concern for her husband’s health; So if she’s in the early stages of the relationship and she’s doing this with you, then it’s a very good indicator that she really has feelings for you. This is also a way that many Chinese women try to give a man a hint that she likes him, so either way, it’s a good sign!
Another great indication that your prospective Chinese girlfriend’s or girlfriend’s feelings are genuine, and that she may be deeply in love with you, is that green-eyed monster called ‘jealousy’. Most Western women repress or control this emotion, but this is hardly the case for Chinese women; I can assure you that this is an emotion that Chinese women are more than happy to express when they feel it!
The repression of jealousy is actually mainly related to native English-speaking countries and has its roots in British culture, it is definitely not part of the Chinese national character in any way! So if you see jealousy in her eyes when you pay attention to another girl, then you know that she has very likely fallen in love with you!