Your baby is unique and will naturally develop all the skills they need, at their own pace. I don’t believe in potty ‘training’, and my own kids got control of their bowels at different ages, and you know what? Neither my wife nor I were particularly concerned. There is only one way to approach the subject of bowel and bladder control, and that is to let your child decide when he is ready and not try to rush her decision. With our three children, we have never used a potty, but we have a toilet seat reducer so they can sit on the ‘big’ toilet like mum and dad. Here are some thoughts on the whole bowel control process.
It is impossible to train a child unless his body has developed to the point where he can physically and mentally perform the task. If we look at toilet training, this means that it is not possible for your child to control bowel movements unless the intestinal muscles are strong enough to hold urine and feces, and that at some point the brain gives a command and the body can respond to that command. If this level of sophistication has not been reached, any potty training program you have will fail. So at what age will this happen? There is no normal age and some children will achieve this extremely early and others extremely late; but for most young children it is something in between. The best approach for you as a parent is not to worry about it and to pass on your fears to your child.
If you insist on a potty schedule before your child is ready, prepare for tears and sadness, and your relationship with your child may suffer as you will be seen as a source of unhappiness. This very natural process will become a battlefield that you can never win. Keep calm, relax and enjoy this stage of their development because believe me, you absolutely cannot make your baby have a bowel movement or keep their diaper dry if the timing is not right and please don’t yell if an accident happens. happen, because this is inevitable.
Being a parent is a fantastic job, but unfortunately there isn’t any qualification you can take to become better. Use your common sense, don’t worry about your best friend’s baby now being dry at night and using and flushing and your little one is still on Pull-Ups. Don’t worry, he will be an adult and will soon have flown from the nest; just enjoy your precious gift, because he or she is as unique as you are.