We all have developed social skills. These are necessary so that we can interact with other people. When stressful situations arise, although we are all different, we react in three ways. I call them the reactionary personality traits.
When we learn to identify these different traits in the people we interact with, it will be easier for us to understand them. Understanding them and why they react the way they do can add a new dimension to our professional and home lives.
Let’s take a look at the 3 different reaction personality traits of people. You may recognize some of these traits in someone you know.
empathic personality
The extremely empathic person is usually better in one-on-one situations. They enjoy one-to-one relationships and dislike change. The empathetic person fears rejection. When the prospect of rejection rears its ugly head, they react by becoming warmer and kinder.
In a business situation, it is more important for the empath to have a friend than a client. When an empath is under extreme stress, they will withdraw, become quiet, and timid. When they get depressed, they radiate negativity.
When they have to interact with the controller personality, they see you as a living, breathing monster! They cannot relate to the controlling personality at all. It is like oil and water.
Decision making can be difficult for this personality type. The best thing you can do to foster positive change is to get out of your comfort zone and engage in decision-making activities. They could join group activities that encourage interaction with many different people. It can be very difficult for these types of people to want to get out of their comfort zone. They usually only do this if there is a reward for doing it or if there are dire consequences for not doing it.
Driver Personality
The extreme driver often comes across as overly aggressive, pushy, and can become obnoxious. If this person is in a sales or management role, it may be your worst nightmare.
They also fear rejection, losing control, or being controlled by another person. When they sense this is happening, they attack. His idea of the best defense is an overwhelming offense. Under extreme stress, they will become hostile and then depressed.
They will vent their emotional anxiety by attacking the character of other people, management, or the company. They see the empathic person as a mouse and weak. If they are an extreme case of a controlling personality, they will not be able to relate to an empathic personality at all. They will have no respect for them.
This type of person really needs to work on being warmer and developing more empathy skills. When they have developed the ability to be warmer and more empathetic, they may be the best choice to help an empathetic person make those buying decisions.
ideal personality
You will recognize this person by their charisma. They get along well with all kinds of different people. They quickly adapt to situations. They radiate warmth. They tend to be very popular. Everyone likes to be around this personality. They may have started out as a 1 or 2 personality, but they have become the ideal. He has the ability to make decisions, and is usually a good confidant and advisor.
If you have personality traits 1 or 2, don’t be discouraged. Life, after all, is a learning experience. You can grow and change and become anything you choose to be. Don’t let your comfort zone stop you. Get out there and grow!